
Don’t let your Prospects put you in the “Friend Zone”
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This month we’re talking about Sales Enablement, but I’d like to change gears and bring up a different subject, so here goes.
This has happened to me more times than I’d like to admit. I’d meet someone new and we’d seem to click. Our talk would quickly escalate to more intimate levels. We’d share our fears and laugh at each other's jokes. Everything is going fine until I suggest we commit to each other. Well, you know how that goes! The other person's eyes glaze over while they search for excuses and ways to distance themselves.
Was I rushing into things too quickly? Or are they in a relationship with someone else?
I thought we were done, but boy was I wrong. I’d get calls from them asking how I was, and if maybe we could meet for lunch. At the time I wasn’t thinking that they only wanted to meet me for lunch because they knew I’d pay. After a while I got suspicious. Every time I brought up anything with the word “commitment” in it they found an excuse or changed the subject. Finally, I’d had enough! I broached the subject on one of our outings and they fired back, “I don’t see us being together. But I do think we make great friends.”
After all the lunches, phone calls, golf dates, and even a baseball game, I was put into the “Friend Zone!” And the worst part was that I had wasted a lot of time that I could have invested in meeting other people. And now I had to tell my manager that I didn't make the sale, again. It’s bad enough when you get friend-zoned trying to date someone, but it’s just as painful when you get friend-zoned in the professional world. It’s a crush to both your ego and your pocketbook.
What I've learned from these experiences is that you need to either close the deal right away or close the door to someone who won't commit. You can always follow-up at a later date, but it's important not to waste your time trying to close a deal with someone unwilling to make decisions.
“If you spend too much time trying to build a relationship with somebody, just to get their money – what kind of a relationship is that?”Alex Rogers, CEO of CharTec and one of the country’s top sales trainers says; “If you spend too much time trying to build a relationship with somebody, just to get their money – what kind of a relationship is that?” Rogers explains that you become someone who the prospect wants to hang out with, maybe play a round of golf with, but not someone who is ready to become a customer of yours. And he's right! Rogers then goes on to say that the reason the friend-zone situation gets out of hand is that we're not staying focused on business, and we're forgetting about key steps to closing deals: The Five Prerequisites of a Sale. For those of you who have not learned these steps yet, and for those who need a refresher, here they are:
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Identify Needs.
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Create a Solution.
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Give them enough Value to justify the Cost.
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Create a sense of Urgency.
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Meet with the person who has the Authority to Buy.
